I always believed in soulmates and I still do, but since I turned 18 I stopped believing in love in my life.
I like romance and horror, but now romances make me suffer in a way that horror never did.
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You still believe in love?
Mon, 02/03/2026 - 11:20
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Thu, 05/03/2026 - 20:58
#3
love always seemed to elude me, but recently there's been hope. I was probably the least "cool" person to my peers as a kid. A lot of that stigma from elementary carried through middle and even partially high school, so besides my friend group, nobody ever really spoke to me or showed interest. But now that all that's over and done with, and I've matured, I've slowly but steadily found more friends, and people I think I like. But sometimes, its your oldest friends find love with. very recently I was hanging out with a few friends of mine. I got way higher than I had any right to be and felt like shit for about half of the time. During that time, one of my friends, someone I've known since middle school, was incredibly caring towards me in the state I was in, far from the usual type of repore we have with each other. And as I threw up in the bathroom, the realization dawned on me that I think I really like him. I didn't act on it, partially because I was nervous, but also because I was high, so maybe this was just my brain being weird. But now its been a few weeks, and those feeling haven't gone away. Then there's her. I've been doing theater for a while, since maybe 8th grade. I'm not super into musicals, but I really like acting. I started doing community theater after high school, and I've met a lot of really cool and interesting people. Probably the first person I really got along with was her. She's super nice, super talented, she has a great attitude, and, despite me having terrible social skills, she's one of the few people outside of close friends or family that I can carry a conversation with, even though we don't really share a lot of interests, but we talk a lot. But now I feel like I have a dilemma. I have two people I really like that I'd like to tell them how I feel, but I know I cant have both. on one hand, He's familiar. I know what he has to offer since I've known him for so many years, and we get along really well. On the other hand, She challenges me more, pushes me out of my comfort zone, and at this point in my life, I could use some challenge. Some push. But she's also someone I've never really hung out with 1 on 1 for more than a car ride home or an intermission. Maybe its a mistake typing all this out. Maybe putting out how I feel on a fucking porn comic site as Pope Francis is stupid. But idk its nice to get my feelings out there somewhere, right?
Fri, 13/03/2026 - 16:02
#4
I think you just want to be the protagonist of a drama; you don't even know how they feel. But I think you want to enjoy this moment when you can choose someone.
Just flipping a coin and talking to one of them. If a girl likes me but also likes someone else, I wouldn't be with her even if she paid me.
If this is the kind of thing you worry about them you life is easy and you're living life the wrong way.
Fri, 13/03/2026 - 01:15
#5
It certainly is bro. Get that shit outta your system. You certainly have a strange love life going on at the moment there. I'm probably terrible for advice regarding this, but there must be one you like more. If anything, it might always be good to go for the girl to see where it goes. Dating in friend circles doesn't go well from what I've heard. Those people around you develop very strong bonds with you, and likewise, you might feel like you love them very much as well. I have basically gotten into something similar with some friends online I wrote smut with. They're very comforting to be around. However, it's unlikely we'll really ever be in a relationship, especially if we don't see each other that way. It's closer to family in that sense.
I kinda started ranting a bit though, obviously, don't take my words at face value. If you really believe that your homie's the one for you, go tell them how you feel. Don't let me, or anyone else discourage you from searching for your true feelings. Our opinions only serve to help you along your morale journey, or however you call it. Just remember to tell them you love them. Do whatever kind of mental preparation you need, even if it's coping with the worst possible outcome you can think of. Chances are, things aren't usually as bad as we make em out to be anyway. Who knows? Maybe you and the both of em might be into a polyamorous relationship.
Thu, 05/03/2026 - 18:49
#6
heartbreak requires love for it to hurt, being afraid of love doesn't mean it doesn't exist
to be honest, for your own mental sake, do try and make irl friends, go out, it may not help instantly, but love comes naturally with those, or maybe not, I'm a rando on a porn site
go ahead and try your luck, "the worst she can say is no" type shit
Thu, 05/03/2026 - 12:06
#7
Belief in love is like the belief in god.
It probably doesn't exist but being faithful is convenient at the least
Thu, 05/03/2026 - 00:08
#9
Honestly yeah. Life’s gonna throw a whole fucking lot of curveballs at you and it’s ok to be afraid. Like I said once, “Sometimes fear is the appropriate response.”
Wed, 04/03/2026 - 17:33
#10
Mental gymnastics man. If you have the motivation and are willing to put in effort then in the end it's worth. But managing it when you're not in the right headspace is a bitch
Wed, 04/03/2026 - 16:06
#11
Love isn’t something you find, it’s something you decide not to give up on. So yes believe in love but not as a promise,but as a choice we keep making.
Wed, 04/03/2026 - 22:06
#21
Its not about believing its just a way animals find an excuse to breed most of the time and their body is supporting it by pushing the right hormones/chemicals in the brain
Its a fact it exists but love cant last without gaslighting yourself into doing so
Thu, 05/03/2026 - 08:10
#25
Yeah because your previous conclusion to my response was something that had no correlation with what i said?
Thu, 05/03/2026 - 03:02
#28
Yes, there are drivers, but the problem is that you limit all of humanity to hormones and neurotransmitters. We create societies in which love rejects superficiality. If I marry someone, my body will motivate me to have relationships with other people to increase my genetic makeup, but we rationally choose to love even when anatomy tells us otherwise.
If someone doesn't do that, it's not considered love.
Mon, 02/03/2026 - 15:33
#29
It's the nature of love that you can't experience it without also making yourself vulnerable. I'm sorry you were hurt.
Mon, 02/03/2026 - 15:26
#31
Ive been with my girlfriend for almost 5 years now, known her for even longer
It happens, but until it does yeah its gonna feel like you're always doomed to be lonely,
I cant give the best advice on how to deal with it because all i did was smoke pot until i forgot abt it which, in all fairness was awesome but i heavily reccomend against
It can happen though, itll truly just hit you out of the blue when it does,
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It's the nature of love that you can't experience it without also making yourself vulnerable. I'm sorry you were hurt.